"Fairyland": A Tender Tribute to Queer Family and Love in 1980s San Francisco

Fairyland is a poignant film adaptation of Alysia Abbott’s memoir, capturing the complexities of growing up in 1970s–80s San Francisco with her gay single father, Steve. Directed by Andrew Durham, the film explores themes of love, identity, grief, and the evolving LGBTQ+ landscape during the onset of the AIDS crisis.

Emilia Jones portrays a young adult Alysia, while Nessa Dougherty plays her younger self. A standout moment features Alysia sharing a real childhood notebook with her poet father, underscoring the authenticity of the narrative. Set against the backdrop of bohemian San Francisco, the story balances moments of magic and melancholy as the city and gay community confront the AIDS epidemic. Filming took place locally, including San Francisco and Mare Island, with period details enriched by memorabilia provided by Abbott. Premiering at Sundance 2023, the long-delayed film evokes collective mourning and transformation, highlighting the emotional impact of the AIDS era and the resilience within queer families.

"I realized that even in the face of loss and fear, love and family—chosen or biological—are what give us the courage to be our truest selves."

At its core, Fairyland examines identity, queerness, and familial bonds. Alysia’s story emphasizes the challenges of growing up in a nontraditional household while navigating societal expectations and self-discovery. Her father’s journey as a queer parent adds depth to the narrative, portraying both the struggles and joys of love, intimacy, and personal growth.

The film also provides historical context, capturing San Francisco’s artistic and queer culture in the 1970s and ’80s alongside the impact of the AIDS crisis. This backdrop informs the characters’ choices and experiences, grounding the story in a real and emotionally resonant setting.

Fairyland is a heartfelt exploration of queer family dynamics, resilience, and the enduring bonds of love and identity.